12/1/2025 12:30 PM (PST)

Hey everyone, I’ve been thinking about joining an online fet/kink space, but I’m kinda nervous and don’t really know what to expect. What are some signs that a site or community is actually safe, respectful, and consent-focused rather than just a random place full of sketchy vibes? I’m mostly interested in learning, maybe chatting with people who share similar interests, but I want to make sure I’m not walking into something toxic or unsafe. What do you look for when deciding if a kink-focused website or group is legit, and what red flags should someone new watch out for?